How Interpersonal Skills Can Help You To Get Ahead In Life

Dr. Purushothaman
December 9, 2013

When a person has good interpersonal skills he or she is more likely to get ahead in life. People with these skills tend to be more successful in business as well as in their personal lives.

Few if any people are born with good interpersonal skills. They can be learned and they can be honed.

Here are a number of things that you can do to improve your interpersonal skills:

• One of the keys to developing a healthy interpersonal relationship is being enthusiastic. No one likes to hang around with or talk to gloomy people who are often lost in their own world. Instead, if you actively interact with people and make them feel that you are interested in communicating with them they will be more open to what you say. When you are positive and enthusiastic about your life and what you are saying you will build rapport more easily and develop more intimate relationships.

• If you want to be a good presenter you must be a good listener. While most people love to talk, in order to be understood and appreciated you must pay attention to what other people are saying. Whether you agree with them or not, you need to understand the message that they are trying to convey.

• If you are overly alert you can give people the impression that you are nervous. But if you seem lethargic then no one will want to pay you any mind. You need to find a happy medium between the two. People with good interpersonal skills are relaxed. They don't fidget, tap their toes or twiddle with their hair. Although they are not board-stiff, neither do they slouch or have hunched shoulders.

• If you disagree with someone there is no need to shout and argue. Disagreements should not be accompanied by expressions of anger or high-pitched shrieks. Those actions will only escalate the argument and not solve it. Instead, disagreements should be constructively analyzed by all parties involved. That's the way that mutually agreeable arrangements can be made.

• It's important that you smile frequently and maintain eye contact when you listen or talk to people. If you look people up and down when talking to them you will inevitably irritate them.

• Listen to constructive criticism without becoming upset. Analyze it and see if the criticism has any merit.

• Don't overtly or publicly criticize another person. You may want to gently point out their faults in a private conversation and tell them why you feel that way. And if you do, make sure that you offer at least one positive suggestion about how they can improve.

• Do not be overly assertive. Although a certain measure of assertiveness attests to good interpersonal skills, if you are in a management position you need to remember that micro-managing people will only be a burden to them and to you.

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