Real Happiness Comes From Within

Dr. Purushothaman
October 4, 2013

Life isn't the sweetest candy. Sometimes, when I feel like the world is just too heavy, I look around and find people who continued to live fascinating and wonderful lives. And then thoughts come popping into my mind like bubbles from nowhere – "How did their life become so adorably sweet? How come they still can manage to laugh and play around despite a busy stressful life?" Then I pause and observe for awhile. I figured out that maybe, they start to work on a place called ‘self'.trans.gif

So, how does one become genuinely happy? Step 1 is to love yourself.

My theology professor once said that "loving means accepting." To love oneself means to accept that you are not a perfect being, but behind the imperfections must lie a great ounce of courage to be able to discover ways on how to improve your repertoire to recover from our mistakes.

Genuine happiness also pertains to contentment. When you are contented with the job you have, the way you look, with your family, your friends, the place you live in, your car, and all the things you now have - truly, you know the answer to the question "how to be genuinely happy."

When we discover a small start somewhere from within, that small start will eventually lead to something else, and to something else. But if you keep questioning life like it has never done you any good, you will never be able to find genuine happiness.

I believe that life is about finding out about right and wrong, trying and failing, wining and losing. These are things that happen as often as you inhale and exhale. Failure, in a person's life has become as abundant and necessary as air. But this should not hinder us from becoming happy.

How to be genuinely happy in spite all these? I tell you- every time you exert effort to improve the quality of life and your being, whether it is cleaning up your room, helping a friend, taking care of your sick dog, failing and trying again, life gives you equivalent points for that.
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Imagine life as a big score board like those which are used in sport. Every time you take a step forward, you make scoring points. Wouldn't it be nice to look at that board at the end of each game and think to yourself "Whew! I got a point today. I'm glad I gave it a shot.", instead of looking at it all blank and murmuring "Geez, I didn't even hit a score today. I wish I had the guts to try out. We could have won!" and then walk away.

Genuine happiness isn't about driving the hottest Formula 1 car, nor getting the employee of the year award, earning the highest pay, or beating the sales quota. Sometimes, the most sought after prizes in life don't always go to the fastest, the strongest, the bravest or not even the best. So, how do you become genuinely happy? Every one has his own definition of ‘happiness'.

Happiness for a writer may mean writing as much best selling books as possible. Happiness for a sportsman may mean getting the player of the year award. Happiness for a beggar may mean a lot of money. Happiness for a business man may mean success.

So, really now, how do we become genuinely happy? Simple. You don't have to have the best things in this world. Its about doing and making the best out of every single thing. When you find yourself smiling at your own mistake and telling your self "Oh, I'll do better next time" you carry with you a flame of strong will power to persevere that may spread out like a brush fire. You possess a willingness to stand up again and try - that will make you a genuinely happy person.

When you learn to accept yourself and your own faults. You pass step 1 in the project "how to become genuinely happy".For as long as you know how to accept others, you will also be accepted. For as long as you love and know how to love, you will receive love ten fold back.

Again, throw me that same question "how to become genuinely happy?". I'll refer you to a friend of mine who strongly quoted- "Most of us know that laughter is the best medicine to life's aches and pain. But most of us don't know that the best kind of laughter is laughter over self. Because then you don't just become happy- you become free."
About the Author

Barry Danser

About 15 years ago, a car accident left me with severe whiplash which, even after extensive physio left me in pain and with a feeling of cornflakes crunching in my neck. I visited many physios, chiropractors, osteopaths and other more alternative practitioners, but nothing was quite right until eventually I combined my knowledge of Tai Chi and Chi Kung with what I learnt from these people and began to develop my own program. No more cornflakes! These exercises became the basis of my fitness regime and so it is still today. Throughout this time I was working in the high stress fashion industry, traveling regularly to the Far East and working ridiculous hours. Finally on business in Paris, France I succumbed to a heart attack in my early 40's. Luckily it was relatively minor, but it was a wake up call. Once again the exercises that I'd devised and forgotten were dusted off and further developed. Having recovered, I decided on some major life changes, so I left the fashion business, moved into property and began to teach Tai Chi and also my own personal set of exercises. Whilst teaching on board P&O's cruise ship Arcadia (Carnival) my unique exercises proved so popular with clients thatI was inundated with requests for a DVD to take home. It's been a long time coming, but finally Wake Up and Breathe! is available on DVD for the first time. I now devote my time to teaching these remarkable exercises nationwide and worldwide to help anyone who wishes to remain fit, flexible and healthy. Barry Danser [email protected]

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