Getting some anger management counseling is a great idea if you do not know how to control your anger. Counseling should be sought before you become an emotional wrecking ball, wiping out everything in your path.
It is also a necessary step for family members or friends dealing with a "rage-a-holic" who has no control over this debilitating emotion, especially if it occurs on a very frequent basis. Counselors are trained professionals who teach anger management skills to those who have reached out for help.
Anger management groups will come together and you or your therapist will follow a few steps. The first is defining anger. There are anger management resources that go through the three types of anger and how it affects the body and the mood of the person consumed by the fury. It is anger from an outside stimulus, how you feel before you become angry and understanding that you are angry while identifying whether or not it is a true anger/rage moment.
When undergoing anger management counseling there are three things you need to know. The first is identifying the type of anger you are feeling. Is it mild irritation or is it a full blown rage that threatens to rule your life.
The second identifying task is to know the physiological effects the anger has on your body. Do you feel an extreme adrenaline rush and a sense of heightened emotions?
Thirdly, you have to understand how you react to the anger. Do you get verbally or physically violent? It is important to know these three steps in order to receive help managing anger.
Some anger is constructive and some is destructive. If you can identify that you are angry and take steps to avert or dissipate the anger, for example through working out or meditating, then you are using the anger constructively. A destructive example would be turning to alcohol or drugs to help you overcome your persistent feelings of anger or acting upon the anger in a harmful way to either yourself or another person.
The final two tools for anger management counseling are for managing anger. They must assess the environmental triggers, the frequency of the anger and the physical symptoms in order to begin the anger management programs. The final step is managing the anger.
This can be done through meditation, diffusion or averting the stimuli in a way that changes the situation, and/or humor. Think about the situation in an absurd light. This may help you overcome your anger once you see the humor in the whole situation.