How to become a more attractive person

Dr. Purushothaman
October 6, 2013

Interesting people are interested people. What does that mean? It means that interesting people are interested in something, they are passionate and enthusiastic.

For some people it could be music, cars, sports, cooking, philosophy, religion, etc. It could be anything.

To illustrate this see the following conversation:

Person A: How are you?

Person B: Fine.

Person A: So what have you been up to?

Person B: Nothing.

Person A: Well, what's new with you?

Person B: Same old same old.

Now I'm sure that we've all met people like this and have experienced the pain of trying to have a conversation with someone like this.

I used this example to show how un-interesting people behave. In this instance an interesting person would have had a lot share and a lot of enthusiasm and passion behind it.

They were be excited and happy to share all of the new and exciting things happening in their life.

This is because people usually assume that what they find interesting everyone else does too, thus they usually are eager and willing to share.

So then what you should do is find something that you are interested in and really get into it. If you are already doing this, then devote more time to it.

But this doesn't mean just go up to someone and start unloading on them. No, that would be rude, obnoxious, and annoying. The next would be….

Be interested in other people.

Everyone likes to feel important and that people care about the things they say and do. So the best way to do this is to be interested when someone is talking to you.

Ask questions, inquire, and genuinely have a desire to learn about whatever it is they are sharing with you. If it is a topic that they are really excited or passionate about, stay on this topic, learn as much as you can about it.

Everyone loves to talk about the things that they are most excited about and by allowing another person to do this while talking to you, they will soon associate these positives feelings with you, and thus they will be more likely to genuinely like you and be interested in whatever it is that you have to say.

Remember, the only way to get what you want, is to help others get what they want. And since everyone wants to feel good, to feel important, and to be listened to, why not facilitate this by really listening when someone is talking, by being interested, by asking questions, and by talking about the things the other person wants to talk about.

Not only will they be more likely to be interested in what you have to say, but you might even learn something new in the process.


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