5 Easy Tips To Achieving Happiness

Dr. Purushothaman
October 3, 2013


Our destiny is a result of our life choices. The things that are happening around us cannot be controlled, but the way we deal with them make all the difference.

Some people deal with constant failure and put-downs, and yet manage to be huge successes. Some people, on the other hand, are dealt with good cards, yet fail to see the beauty behind their blessings, thus making them failures.

There is deep correlation between happiness and life success. One without the other would be empty, and seem so worthless. Happiness is a choice, but one must remember that the results in your life are greatly affected by the degree of happiness you feel. No task is too difficult, no challenge too impossible when you feel joyous inside. So how do you achieve happiness? Are there techniques to help you realise more fulfilment in life?

Adapt the best attitude. Most people are limited by their own thinking. The best way you can achieve a life goal is by thinking that you can do it, and by constantly giving it your all. It's not going to be an easy ride, but all the potholes you will encounter along the way help you be the best person you can be. If you feel your goal is too difficult to reach, stop keeping your eye on the goal (your destination) and instead set your eyes on the journey towards your goal. Sometimes, we fail to realize that the lessons life teaches us are those which are most important, and not the success at the end.

Be with the right people. Don't waste your time dealing with people with a negative attitude - they will only bring you down with them. Instead, spend your life with positive, hardworking and determined people. These people will inspire you to be your best, and prod you to go on whenever you feel like giving up. The best people are those who will help you get back up when you fall, not those who will kick you to the curb.

A positive person's attitude is catching- there's always sunshine surrounding them, and they always see the silver lining behind every dark shadow. These people will hold your hand every step of your journey towards success, and hang on to you when you fall.

Focus on what you have. This is the root cause of envy. It's not true that the grass is greener on the other side - it's all a matter of perspective. Learn to appreciate what you have, and stop wishing you had what others have. Do you know what their pains are? Are you aware of what they had to give up in order to get to where you are? If you are not ready to give up everything, then stop wishing for the things which are not yours. I had a friend who told me that the price he had to pay for his success in business is losing his entire family in the process.

This is a lesson for most of us - focus on your life, not others'. If you wish to emulate other successful people's triumphs, then use them as inspiration - and work you way towards success. Envy will get you nowhere, plus it also often makes people angry and bitter.

Smile more often. When you smile, people are drawn to you. You come off as pleasant and cheerful, even if you have pain. A smile makes you and everyone around you feel better. It sends a positive message to everyone. Have you noticed how lonely Mr. Scrooge is despite his wealth? It's because he is always grumpy and mad, never smiling, even when things are going well. He is alone at the top, despite sitting on bags and bags of money. After all, what good is wealth, when you don't have anyone to share it with?

A person who has little, on the other hand, but is always eternally smiling because of the very little that he has will most probably have a load of friends. These friends are actually the best treasures a happy person has in life. They are the ones who will enter his room when everyone else decides to head out to the exit. They will be there when they are needed most.

Let go when you know you should. Too many people are unhappy and unsuccessful because they fail to realise when to quit. There are just some battles which are better left un-fought. When something (or someone) is not worth fighting for, then let go. You will not only save yourself from more pain, you will also have more time to pursue better options. There is a thin line separating persistence and hard-headedness. Persistence is fighting 'til you reach your goal. Hard headedness, on the other hand, is insisting on fighting even if you know the battle isn't worth your while. Holding on is being brave, but letting go takes more courage. You must choose your battles, because not all battles are worth pursuing.

In the end, it is always your choice to be happy.


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