How To Save Yourself From Emotional Abuse In Marriage?

Dr. Purushothaman
January 13, 2014


A abusive marriage is when your partner hurts you emotionally and even physically. If you have children, that is much worse as you have to worry about them as well. If you want to find out how to save yourself from emotional abuse in marriage, here is my advice.
Your marriage relationship is affected on the day when your spouse starts resorting to emotional, physical or even sexual violence. These incidents can hurt you physically and emotionally. But before resorting to hard decisions like having a divorce, you ought to find a practical solution first.
Abuse in marriage may be emotional, physical, economic or sexual.
Emotional and verbal abuse can be done using insulting words, rejection, ignorance, terrorizing, isolation and even having an affair with someone else right in your home. All these led to inferiority complex within you.
There may be violations of economic as in refusal to buy basic necessities, controlling all bank accounts, stealing money in your account, do not access to credit card or monetary gift confiscated.
Physical abuse includes beating, biting, injuring and causing burns.
I do not need to tell you how you will know if your partner is abusive. All the warning signs are there for you, your children or anyone else to see.
Abuse can cause a very dangerous condition which may badly affect the physical and psychological condition of a person. Victims may become very frightened and disturbed and may lose psychological balance. It can even lead to tragedy if not handled correctly.
Therefore, it is not easy to deal with partner abuse. If you do not want to break up a marriage, then start working on how to save it. I know it is not easy since you need a lot of patience and tolerance for it.
Your first step you is to find the cause of abuse. You can consult a marriage counselor or psychiatrist to help you to understand the causes of the behavior of your partner. If necessary, bring your partner to a psychiatrist for treatment although there is a 90 per cent probability that he or she will not go and even stop you from seeking treatment.
Self-assessment is another important solution. Try to find out the shortcomings and mistakes and learn to overcome them. Understand what your spouse does not like and avoid them.
If you have to, go for an outing or even vacation with your spouse to change his or her mood.
Whichever solution you have in mind, heart-to-heart communication with your partner is the best solution even though it may or may not solve this problem.
But if your spouse still threatens and behaves abusively, you need to consult with your family and marriage counselor about this.

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