Be Cautious and Steer Clear of Emotionally Unavailable Men

Dr. Purushothaman
January 13, 2014


Every woman is aware of the futility of getting involved with a man who is emotionally unavailable. It is clear from the experiences of many women that it is simply impossible to change them; thus the best option is to stay away from them.
After learning of the negatives, you may have taken a decision that it is best to stay away from emotionally unavailable men. Now the question is: how do you differentiate between them and the others? Even though they have qualities (rather vices), which set them apart from others, you will need to be a little observant to make the right differentiation. Of course, once you have identified the ones falling in that category, your job becomes much easier.
Differentiate Between Emotionally Unavailable Men and Available Men
Men who are emotionally unavailable are not introverts and yet they aren't extroverts. They have a capacity to pull people towards them and yet they do not let them get too close. This mish-mash of closeness and indifference puts your relationship with such a man on a constant roller coaster of highs and lows. It is only a question of time before you give up.
In due course, he will come out in the open and suggest that 'he wants to keep his options open'. He is basically trying to say that he wants more than you and this is a typical characteristic of an emotionally unavailable man.
One more characteristic of such a man is his emotional volatility and instability. He is hardly aware of what he wants and in his confusion, ends up winding up relationships even with a normal and stable woman like you. A look at his past relationships is a reflection of his inconsistent choices and unstable preferences. No matter how hard you try, you can never change him. Never step into a relationship with such a man thinking that you will change him; it will never happen.
It is every woman's dream to be the only one for her man. In case of an emotionally unstable man, it is highly unlikely that you will be able to achieve that. Since an emotionally unstable man is not sure of what he really wants, there is a good possibility that even when he has you in his life, he will still be unsatisfied and looking out for other 'opportunities'.
Initially, everything may seem hunky-dory but as soon as he starts feeling the burden of emotions and stability, he starts whimpering. It is just not in the nature of an emotionally unstable man to be in a stable relationship for long. Period.
It is thus widely established that it is a stupid idea to get involved with an emotionally unstable man. It is certainly more of a risk than anything else. If you spot them beforehand and maintain a good distance, you can ensure that you will not be a pawn in a relationship with such a man.
For those women who are already stuck with such a man, it is best to evaluate his plans and intentions. If you think it is highly impossible to deal with it, you should walk out as soon as possible. However, even if you think it is possible to deal with his whims, carefully evaluate your emotions. If you are compromising too much, you better be aware that it is not worthwhile; such emotionally unavailable men will very often not think twice before walking out on you.

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