1. Align With Your Core Values
Do you know what your core values are?
If you don't, you don't know yourself and you don't truly know what motivates and drives you. Get to know your core values because they dictate everything in your life. They are at the core of your identity and dictate what job you do, who your friends are, what you like in a partner and whether taking advice from a Life Coach is a worthwhile thing to do!
2. You Are the Most Important Person In The World
Did you know that? Did you know that you really are the most important person in the world , at least to you?
Thats right, its not your kids, your parents or even your best buddy, it is you! Without you, everything else in your reality ceases to exist. So be kind to yourself. You are doing the best you can with the information you have to hand. You mess up, you make mistakes and you make stupid decisions because guess what, even Life Coaches do!
Treat yourself with the kind of respect you would like from others at all times. If you don't like other people hurling abuse or disrespecting you, don't do it to yourself.
3. Just Say No!
Leading on from you being the most important person is having the ability to respect that belief and say no from time to time.
As I have seen my Life Coaching blog grow in popularity so I have seen the requests for help I receive grow exponentially. Barely does a day go by when I don't get another Life Coach contact me for advice or a publishing company asking me to review a book.
By disciplining yourself now you become better at it later. Think of people that are super successful and you respect highly. Do you think they have the time to say yes to everybody that wants some of their time? Do you think people think worse of them for that fact?
In my field of Life Coaching, Tony Robbins is the probably the most recognizable figure. How many requests for help do you think he turns down to each one he accepts? I'd be surprised if the ratio were less than 100:1
4. Question Your Beliefs
Beliefs are opinions and nothing more. If you have a belief that you aren't good enough, old enough, wealthy enough, attractive enough or clever enough, undermine it by looking for contrary evidence.
I used to have a belief that I wasn't good enough as a Life Coach. But then I started to wonder why if I wasn't good enough I had never had a single client complaint? All of a sudden I realized maybe it was a self-limiting belief and not a fact.
5. Ask Better Questions
Why am I such a loser, is not a great question. What can I do differently next time is though.
Drop the whys that push you into defense mode and ask more hows, who's and whats. How can I improve? What can I learn from this? Who can help me?
6. Re frame It!
As a Life Coach this is possibly the single most important skill I can teach a client
Take a negative belief, situation, etc and try and look at it from another point of view. Come up with as many positive scenarios as possible and don't give up until you get at least one new perspective that makes you feel better about it.
We are never trying to change the event itself with a re frame, merely take control of the way we feel about it. Most successful people I have ever met or coached are great re framers.
