I'll let you in on a little secret. Habits cannot be broken! Stop feeling frustrated and stop criticizing yourself for not being successful at breaking that bad habit youâ€™ve been stuck in for years. Habits cannot be brokenâ€¦they can only be changed.
Habits are energy patterns created through repetition. We create habits to help us establish a familiar world, and then rely on them to help us feel in control. We have many habits that move us through our day.
We categorize our habits as either â€œgoodâ€ or â€œbad.â€ For instance, we usually begin our day with a series of morning habits. Waking at the same time, stopping off at the bathroom, brushing our teeth, taking a shower, getting dressed, eating breakfast, taking the same route to work, stopping in the coffee shop for a familiar brew, etc. We would probably label these habits as â€œgood habits.â€ They are the habits that positively support us in beginning our day.
In contrast, the habits that sabotage us from living a healthy and balanced life, we label â€œbad.â€ Letâ€™s say in our daily morning rituals weâ€™ve developed a â€œbad habitâ€ of hitting the snooze alarm one too many times, causing us to rush through our morning in haste rather than relaxation. What makes this habit â€œbadâ€ is it does not support us in feeling balanced as we begin our day.
How do you break a â€œbad habit?â€ The first step in breaking a bad habit is to stop trying to break it and create a plan to change it. Next, identify a habit that sabotages you living your best life. Ask yourself â€œWhat good habit can I replace it with that would be most supportive in my living a balanced life? Create a plan to shift your energy from a sabotaging pattern to a supportive pattern. In this scenario, you could choose to set the alarm earlier so you can continue to hit â€œsnoozeâ€ and wake up slowly; you could move the clock further away from the bed so you have to get up to turn it off; or you could purchase another alarm clock without a snooze button. What a simple solution! Once we look at the situation in a different light, we realize we have many choices that support us in living a fulfilled, balanced life. What a wonderful wakeup call!