Dr. Purushothaman
May 22, 2017

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1)Marriage is a necessity in my life
2) Marriage is a lifelong relationship and bonding
3) I think that arranged marriage is more acceptable
4) My parents agree with my choice of a future spouse (Love Marriage)
5) Family background, Traditions and Socioeconomic status, etc are to be considered in selecting my future spouse
6) Religion, Caste, Sub-caste, Creed and Locality are important in marriage
7) Astrology, Numerological and the like compatibilities are also important
8) Spiritual faith / Faith in God / Belief systems are important in married life
9) Shared Spiritual practices (Prayers, Meditations, visiting spiritual places, etc) are needed
10) Living a life of mutual faith, love and understanding is very important in life

11) The Traditional roles of husband and wife are important

12) Advice and support from both spouse’s parents and elder members are very important
13) Both spouses should look after their ailing parents, even after marriage, if needed
14) Change of lifestyle after marriage is a must
15) Accepting major changes, new experiences and situations are really needed
16) Instead of rigidity, flexibility in day to day activities is highly essential
17) It is better that the husband should have the overall control of major general matters
18) Both should discuss about financial matters (earning, saving, spending and giving)
19) At critical times, combined decision is to be implemented
20) Mutual sharing of feelings, emotions, thoughts and opinions are needed
21) Mutual caring and support in times of pain, disease and disabilities is absolutely necessary
22) The wife should be responsible for day to day household affairs like cooking, servants and the like miscellaneous items
23) Both should take care of children’s needs, schooling and their problems
24) I consider my future spouse as my best friend
25) I want my future spouse in good health, appearance, personality and mannerism
26) Good habits, values and virtues of my spouse are more important than external beauty and glamour
27) To some extent the financial status of my spouse and family is a matter of concern for me
28) Dowry system / plenty of ornaments / expensive marriage ceremonies, etc are needed in marriage
29) A full assessment of my future spouse at the first meeting is difficult
30) Datings and pre-marital communications are important for a better understanding of my spouse
31) I can ignore the past history of my spouse, including love affairs, if any, and can get along happily in the future
32) I would like to discuss the future plans, work, career and other goals with my spouse
33) Both members should be working and earning for financial stability and better living
34) Wife need not be a working woman, for looking after children and household affairs
35) I am concerned about the food habits of my spouse and can adjust with any dietary changes, if needed
36) I can tolerate the personal likes and dislikes of my spouse
37) My spouse’s personal hygiene and special habits are very important
38) Knowing the sleeping pattern, snoring, sleeping positions, bedroom comforts (A/C / fan speed / mosquito repellants / keeping windows and doors open / closed) and the like are important
39) Both spouses should have a regular morning routine (getting up early, daily rituals, spiritual practices, de-cluttering activities, preparing for the day’s programs and children’s needs etc)
40) Both spouses should help each other for completing morning household activities, especially if both are employed
41) I am concerned about the affinity for fashion and the dress code of my spouse
42) I am willing to re-locate, accompany my spouse in case of change in work and work place
43) I will encourage the Passion and Creativity of my future spouse
44) Sex is an important factor in married life
45) I should share with my spouse sexual likes, dislikes, fears, confusions etc
46) I am against sexual fantasies in my life
47) Premarital sexual relationships, any experiences, if any, should be disclosed to my spouse
48) I am unable to tolerate any adultery in our life
49) I can’t tolerate if my spouse is having the habit and addiction to pornography
50) I like external love-making, fondling, caring, hugging etc more than actual sexual activity
51) I should submit my whole mind, body and soul to my spouse in the first night of marriage
52) It is better to avoid intense sexual activities during the first few days of marriage for mutual physical and mental balancing
53) I want to enjoy the Honeymoon period in an elaborate manner
54) I will ignore the common incompatibilities and silly problems during the initial periods of married life
55) I am willing to seek the advice of a counselor, mentor, guide or a senior person from the family circle in times of conflicts and problems in our future life
56) I like spending weekends, special holidays for recreational activities outside and also traveling
57) A detailed pre-marital checkups of both spouses should be a routine to exclude any physical illness, family or hereditary problems, STD and the like illnesses
58) I am concerned about the General health and well being of my partner
59) Daily physical exercise and other fitness and wellness programs should be a part of our life
60) Adopting family planning methods is a necessity in today’s living
61) Both spouses should openly discuss about the time of first child, spacing in between, children and the number of kids and the like matters
62) Both partners should have a consensus of opinion on raising children, their education and future, etc
63) As far as possible, both spouses should avoid stressful situations in life
64) As a routine both spouses should practice regular stress-reduction methods and do prayer, meditation and other spiritual practices jointly for a peaceful life
65) Making fun with each other and keeping a sense of humor is a must in married life
66) I am against an above-average shopping and spending habits
67) At times I am short tempered, becomes angry quickly, cool down soon and yet I am loving
68) I always forgive my spouse, whatever may be the provocating reason
69) Rather than being workaholic, my spouse should manage family and work together
70) I am against the habit of social drinking / occasional drinking / addiction to smoking and drug abuse of my future spouse
71) I would like to spend my free time productively by reading / writing / painting / doing art works / dancing / learning music etc.
72) I am worried about my future spouse's habit of sitting late at night, watching TV and internet
73) Over involvement in social media activities can create conflicts and confusions in married life and will also affect the future of growing children
74) I am dead against the untimely and over usage of mobile phones by my spouse
75) I am concerned about the excessive affinity of my spouse with friends after marriage
76) I will be annoyed, if my future spouse maintains friendship with the opposite sex, even after marriage
77) I don’t like the over-involvement of my spouse in social activities, organizations, meetings, night clubs etc.
78) I like romantic expressions, when we are outside our residence
79) Frequent use of the words “You always”/ “You can’t”/ “You are responsible”/ “You never” will affect our mutual affection and relationship
80) I don’t like blaming each other when conflicts are arising
81) The frequent unnecessary interference of my spouse’s family will affect our relationship
82) I feel that my future spouse can deal our problems with courage, confidence and very easily
83) I usually become quiet during an argument
84) Since our values and ideologies are in harmony, we can solve our problems very quickly
85) In our conversations, my future spouse's response is encouraging and maintains a high standard
86) I think that I can learn a lot from my future spouse and I am secure with my spouse
87) Sometimes, I may keep some simple secrets away from my spouse
88) I am against the self-centered attitude of my spouse and the tendency to win always in an argument
89) My spouse’s habit of giving importance to other’s opinion in our family and personal matters is not a good thing
90) I can tolerate conflicts in our life to a certain extent
91) My future spouse should be a good listener and should feel my feelings
92) I don’t think that I am inferior to my future spouse
93) I like bringing up and caring my favorite pets
94) My childhood negativity will not in any way affect our future relationship
95) I feel that both of us can build a life of meaning, purpose and mutual trust
96) I don’t think that I am anxious or confused about our marriage
97) I definitely feel that we will be Ideal couples after marriage
98) Irrespective of the opinions given above, I feel it is better to have a personal advice of a counselor for the sake of completion
99) Now I am giving my full consent to my parents to proceed with our marriage at the earliest or any other convenient date for both families
100) And finally, I am surrendering everything to the Almighty God for all the Blessings in the days to come

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