A relationship between two people can exist on many levels. A deeply interpersonal relationship can be portrayed within a passionate attachment, emotional intimacy, a sexual relationship, or any combination thereof. Humans have an innate desire to belong and to be loved by another human. That need is usually met and satisfied in an intimate relationship. A strong emotional attachment is sometimes called love; however, the word is used rather loosely in some cultures today. Love can exist on many levels, but one of them is definitely an intimate relationship with another person.
Relationships are the basis of society and social groups, as a whole. The length of the relationship may be brief or enduring. Most people or couples are hopeful that, in the context of an emotionally intimate bond, it will be enduring. Two people in a relationship share their thoughts and feelings, tend to influence each other, and take part in activities together. An interdependency exists in which something that happens to one member of the relationship will have an impact on the other.
Interpersonal relationships are dynamic; in other words, they change on a continuous basis for as long as they exist. Psychologists have defined this dynamic as the development of a relationship, and state that it follows five separate stages. Those stages are acquaintance, buildup, continuation, deterioration, and termination. While not all relationships experience the last two stages, the first three stages are always in place. This is true of business, friend, and other social connections, as well as the more intimate. In some long term, intimate relationships, it is easy for the involved parties to identify the dynamic. For instance, partners who have been married for decades will readily acknowledge that they are not the “same” people who originally met and wed. Time, experience, and outside influences change every person. Those who can adjust to the change and accept it, maintain their relationships. Those who cannot, experience the stages of deterioration and termination.
Developing a lasting relationship starts with finding the right person. While many people meet in a school or business setting, others find themselves entering adulthood searching for someone else to share their life. There are many ways of seeking potential partners, including blind dates arranged by a third party, speed dating, online dating services, and classified advertisements. A chance encounter cannot be ruled out, especially in cities where pedestrian activity is high. Others have found prospective partners at social clubs, nightclubs, or through their mutual interests or hobbies. The search might not always be easy, but many people are successful in one way or another, as evidenced by the millions of couples in long-term relationships throughout the world.
Couples in some countries, are required to identify their relationship for the purposes of census, or on job applications or other forms. Definitions of relationships can be convoluted. The simplest definition is married or single; however, other choices these days include divorced, domestic partnership, or unmarried partners. Identification of relationship in a social context is necessary to let others know that partners in a relationship are not available for intimate relations with other people. In many cultures, a married woman and/or man wears a wedding ring. Other cultures have different markers. A married man, for instance, may be required by his culture to wear a beard or a prayer shawl. A married woman in another culture may wear a pendant or necklace, sindoor, or bangles. All of these indicators mean that the person is unavailable to others for an intimate relationship.
Successful, healthy, and flourishing relationships are found when partners possess and use appropriate communication skills. Partners who talk about, or otherwise communicate, all aspects of their individual and joint lives are frequently found to have satisfying, stable relationships. The opposite case can be found in relationships that founder and are sometimes terminated. Other psychologists suggest that relationships are formed with no particular influence by the parties involved, that they are a result of childhood examples and basic instincts. Still other theories believe that relationship forming can be taught as a course in school.
Intimate relationships can have three aspects, according to some psychologists. They are physical attraction or passion, intimacy, and commitment. Finding the right partner is key.
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